Not only that, but they can create emotional baggage and let me say unnecessary emotional baggage. So as a result of disagreeing about how long little Princess Daughter should be on punishment, now mom and dad are not speaking for days. Or since the team couldn't agree, now's there's a feeling of disloyalty and amongst what used to be a strong cohesive team. Just that quickly, something has divided what should be united.
In retrospect, you have to ask yourself was it worth it? Did the time that you lose not speaking, interacting, bonding with the one that you love, was the infraction worth the consequence? Did the time you spend not speaking to your peers and distrusting them produce any positive results?
It is important that we learn how to disagree so that unity isn't impacted.
Here are three critical skills to use.
- Always address issues and not the individual. Meaning, discuss the situation in a constructive format that will not put the others in a defensive mode.
- Listen to their point of view. Really listen to what they are saying and try to understand their perspective. Having an open mind will assist with that.
- Write down the pros and cons of each perspective so that the resolve can be as objective as possible.